Sex Isn't a Big Deal

"Sex isn't a big deal."

I said that a few weeks ago to

two of my children

(and a couple of their friends).

And within the context of our conversation,

I assumed that what I meant was clear.

 

However,

yesterday, my youngest daughter

mentioned it to me and revealed that

she had mistook me as meaning something

entirely different than what I had intended!

 

We have always attempted to keep

the lines of communication open and clear

for our children about any subject they

wish to discuss.

No topic is taboo or off limits in our home.

 

But perception is a funny thing.

And without clear, open and free

communication,

things can easily become "sticky"

or convoluted.

 

 

So when I said,

"Sex isn't a big deal,"

I was implying that when you are in a

committed relationship/partnership

with another person,

sex is not necessarily at the forefront

of the relationship.

It is always an important part of the relationship,

but as life happens and

as time goes on,

sex is not as big of a deal as it was when

we were younger or new to one another.

 

In a healthy, loving relationship,

sex is a benefit rather than

 something we struggle to abstain from

or

something which we strive to obtain.

 

I'm thankful that Girl2 brought this up again

so that I could clarify my (very serious) comment

which she had perceived as being flippant!

 

Which goes to show that any kind of relationship

without clear communication is

a disaster waiting to happen!

Raising children in a safe, honest & open

environment is essential to their well-being

on into adulthood.

And I am so glad that we have chosen this path!

 

 

P.S.: My children (and friends) are teens/young adults and are

mature and capable of handling such topics of conversation.

No need to report me to the authorities for exposing

children to illicit conversation!